I am taking a break from my advice giving column because something important came up. I was looking at my husband’s calendar, to see what he has planned for the next few months so I can work my schedule around it, when I noticed that from now until Jan, we have been invited to about 15 weddings. This pleases me because it mean more Naija women have not fallen into the single but happy women group. It also made me realize that even though us married Naija sisters give each other advice, we never really pay attention to the newly wedded Naija sisters. So in this column, I will be advising them on what to expect and what is expected of them from the moment the get that prized ring on their fingers and the wonderful title of MRS added to their names.
To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper upbringing, the wedding day is the happiest day of her life. There is the wedding itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life.
At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth. Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure, which is absolutely the way it should be since your pleasure comes from pleasuring your husband. One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: GIVE A LOT, GIVE ALWAYS, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GENEROUSLY. Otherwise what could have been a proper marriage could become a boring affair for your husband
The bride's pleasure must not be more than her husband's because it is not about her. While sex is at best sweet and interesting it is enjoyed on the minimum by the bride, and has been by women since the beginning of time, and is compensated for by the monogamous home and by the children produced through it.
It is useless, in most cases, for the bride to prevail upon the groom to think about her needs too. While the ideal husband would be one who would attend to his wife's needs also, such nobility and unselfishness cannot be expected from the average man.
Most men denied of sex, will look somewhere else for it. The wise bride will be ever ready to priovide her husband stimulating sexual experiences as often as needed. As time goes by she should make every effort to increase this frequency.
Feigned wellness, alertness, and welcoming your husband with open arms are among the wife's best friends in this matter. Never Argue, nag, scold or bicker not matter how late in the evening the husband commences his seduction.
Clever wives are ever on the alert for new and better methods of improving and encouraging the amorous overtures of the husband. A good wife should expect to have an increased sexual contacts to at least 2 times a day by the end of the first year of marriage and to 5 times a day by the end of the fifth year of marriage.
By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of never having to worry about pregnancy after sexual contacts with the husband. So more giving is encouraged.
Just as she should be ever alert to keep the quantity of sex as high as possible, the wise bride will pay equal attention to being open to the kind and degree of sexual contacts. Most men are by nature rather creative and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a variety of the most interesting practices. These practices include among others having sex in abnormal positions; mouthing the female body; and offering their own bodies to be mouthed in turn.
Nudity, talking about sex, reading stories about sex, viewing photographs and drawings depicting or suggesting sex are great habits the male is likely to acquire if permitted.
A wise bride will make it her goal to allow her husband to see her unclothed body, and always allow him to display his unclothed body to her. Sex, should be practiced at anytime of the day. Many women have found it useful to have flimsy sleepwears for themselves and boxer shorts and briefs for their husbands. It makes the business of sex faster and easier.
During sex, the wife should make as much as noise as possible. This will be interpreted as sexual excitement by the optimistic husband.
A good wife encourages her husband attempts to seduce her with lascivious talk, the wise wife will suddenly remember some trivial sexual question to ask him. Once he answers she should keep the conversation going, no matter how frivolous it may seem at the time.
She should never babble about her housework while his huffing and puffing away. As soon as the husband has completed the act, the wise wife will start praising him about performance. Many men obtain a major portion of their sexual satisfaction from praises immediately after the act is over. Thus the wife must insure that she extols his sexual powress. Otherwise, he might not be encouraged to soon try for more.
She should never babble about her housework while his huffing and puffing away. As soon as the husband has completed the act, the wise wife will start praising him about performance. Many men obtain a major portion of their sexual satisfaction from praises immediately after the act is over. Thus the wife must insure that she extols his sexual powress. Otherwise, he might not be encouraged to soon try for more.
One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep right in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to the marriage with the belief that that his wife's body is his to do as he pleases.The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit. . . to remain married at all cost
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