I am so sorry I have been MIA. I’ve just been a little out of sorts lately. It is because being THE GOOD NAIJA WIFE, I have been shouldering everybody else’s issues . . . like my husband says, it’s why we were born with broader shoulders.
So what has me down on the dumps? Well I just found out through the grapevine that the Foreign Wife of our Naija Brother has left him for good. Even though we didn’t part ways on the best of terms, I was still keeping my fingers crossed for her. I heard she went to see a psychologist like Dr. Phil. . . you know him right, the headshrinker who makes people. . . women believe in all sorts of trash. I’m sorry to say this but I think psychologists are the agents of the devil. They twists people’s minds, make them so warped they can’t think straight. I’ve seen there handiwork up close and personal and it isn’t a pretty sight.
One time A GOOD NAIJA WIFE I know was talked into going to see one by one of the women libbers who think asking your husband money to buy Sanitary Pad is bad, they claim it is the height of dependency. What nonsense, right? I know. . . I mean how else will husbands know when Rogue Housewives are using their periods as an excuse not to perform their wifely duties? Sometimes these women libbers scare me with the way they think. Anyway, the GOOD NAIJA WIFE was talked into see a psychologist and that charlatan ruined her life. After just two visits, he had her spouting crap. . . oops, pardon my English, what I mean to say was he had her reciting silly things like
“"Believe in yourself! You are NOT a worthless human being and nobody has the right to treat you as one! You are Beautiful in you own right and you do not need a man to validate you”
I was so shocked! Worthless? What did he mean worthless? I asked her if her husband told her she was worthless and she said no, I asked her if he still allowed her to wash his socks, cook his meals, press his clothes and she said yes to all of that. So you see why I was confused? It doesn’t end there, no ladies. . . it doesn’t, pretty soon she was strutting around the house, channeling her inner Aretha Franklin, singing R.E.S.P.E.C.T and disobeying to her Naija husband. . . an absolute NO NO.
The day I knew all was lost was when I went to her house and saw this picture hanging on the kitchen wall
Oh my heavens! I almost passed out from shock. Not apply to her? If it doesn't. . . then who? I ended our friendship right then and there. I heard she now works in the new Accounting Firm her husband opened just recently. I thought it was nice of him to include her name on the business and they say they a dynamic duo in the Accounting Buisiness. . . mmm okay, I guess everyone is just pretending she is not working and not just working but doing it along side her NAIJA HUSBAND. Some other wives think she used voodoo. . . me, I won’t say it but what other explanation can there be?
Well I hope you can see why I am a little down, Psychologist and Psychiatrist are destroying our home and nobody is doing anything about it. So I am using this as a warning and a call to arms to all GOOD NAIJA WIVES, please stay away from Psychologist and be on the look out for women libbers who want to use them as a tool to bring our husbands down to our levels in the guise of equal footing.
May our husbands continue to win the battle over our minds.
Now if you will excuse me, I am going to try to get out of this funk by baking some pies for my husband.
A Good Naija Wife.
1 comment:
Hi im writing from india .. im married .. no doubt there are women like yourself here as well. However i feel a good husband is he who nurtures your soul, your wants and your dreams. It was her dream i suppose to put her intellect to better use in a work place.
Its not wrong of her to want different things.. its human nature. It differs from person to person. Her husband was cool enough to let her work with him .. so what ? She is happy. Thats all that matters. You are happy doing what you are doing.. why do you feel she too must live her life exactly like yours?
In india we trying to encourage gender equality for this fact that women can be so much more than just a wife or a mother. She too must have desires, likes and wants. Just as men do. Why is it that our system only adheres to man's word and not a woman's? What is the difference ?
God made as equal.. its okay to enjoy life on your terms.. if you only think outside the "perfect naija wife" .. why is a sin to think about yourself for a change? You get one life.. and you say you worship your husband .. what about God ? God wouldnt want you to talk ill of another lady fulfilling her dreams.. she and her husband are clearly happy.. why must you make it into horrible thing? Cos its not.
God is greater than any of our husbands .. and He wants us to live harmoniously and happy.
P.S i think its your right to use the computer as and when you wish .. your husband earns for you.. and your happiness. Please explore your likes.. he will respect you more if you respect yourself more... invest in your hobbies... cud be stitching.. baking .. anything ..
There must be a person besides "your husband's naija wife" ... you must have a perspective on things in life .. sometimes even a husband needs guidance. Unless you have faith in yourself to step outside being a perfect life .. you wont even understand good from bad. Exactly what happened with the lady uve written about. Shes definitely not bad for taking her career n relationship with her husband to the next level. Its called development!!!
No nation will develop unless the women progress as well.
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